The news of a young mother of two Aderonke who died as a result of
domestic violence has speculated round the Web. It's a saddening story
because of her 4years and 6years old kids who are now orphans.
Information gathered, states that she was involved in a fight with her
husband which led to her death. The man in question now is no where to
be found as he disappeared into thin air with her phone switched off,
locking the children with their dead mother in house.
#SoPainful.
But truth must be told. Would this have happened this way if she hadn't
gotten married to this animal? No! I guess. I still can't figure out
the way some of our ladies do reason. To me it's so annoying. Before
getting married to someone, you would have seen the type of person he
is, the type of lifestyle he lives and I guess you're OK by it that's
why you moved on to the next stage with him which is MARRIAGE. Take for
instance, you met a guy in a club drinking heavily, smoking weed or on
some sort of drugs. He asked you out, you accepted because he's got some
designers on, spends heavily and beautiful ladies around him. Bravo!
You made the right decision (you think). While dating, he flirts around,
comes in at ungodly hours of the day. Which work is he doing, where
does he work, what keeps him late? Oh he's a yahoo boy, he hangs out
with friends that's why he comes in late. To you it's nothing. He's
living life (Congrat to you and your thought. You married an
irresponsible man and you want happiness in the marriage? Don't worry
you would see it in Nollywood movie). He talks to you like nobody even
in public. He hits you once, twice, thrice, he may or may not apologise.
(Your acceptance, it's a mistake. Madame well done). Eventually, you
both got married to each other, the same goes on, you didn't run for
your life. You bore him kids, it continued, you didn't quit the
marriage. (Oh my bad, I've forgotten the word of God which says "For
better for worse". No wonder you're still in the marriage. But have you
forgotten it's this same God that says "If a finger hurts you, CUT it
off. I really do not like talking much about religion cos I know less
about it.
By the way I'm a Christian Muslim
#ChrisLam.
I hardly go to church neither do I go to mosque. Got my reasons tho.
That's the bible for you. In the Quran, it was said that if a union
isn't working fine, it's best you dissolve it before it leads to
something beyond control. Madame can you see you have no point to stay
in a sorrowful marriage.) The worst happened, you had a life accident in
the process of domestic violence, your body isn't the same, or you died
in the process. Do you think the man in question would stick by? My
dear lady, this is the time he speed up his game by marrying another. So
who's at loss here? YOU. Who caused it all? YOU. Who is to be blamed
for all? YOU. Oh you think he would change? What a pity. Do you think he
came up with all those attitude overnight? No. The journey of a
thousand mile they say begins with a step. He grew old in such
attitudes, and can't be changed overnight not by you or anyone. He
doesn't even have the power to change himself. Except if one thing or
the other happened to drive a change in him (Experience or a real good
counselling by a high level pro counsellor. Even counselling may not
work because attitude deals with spirit and only if you're so capable of
controlling your spirit that's when you can change or allow a change of
attitude). Another example amongst millions is that of Tiwa Savage and
TeeBillz. For crying out loud, Tiwa you snatched or should I say took
Tunji Balogun away from his wife and children to get married to him in a
grand style in Dubai. (A round of applause to you on that Miss Doro
Hot). But I still do not get it why you're shedding tears that he's a
flirt, he takes cocaine, incur debt at the club on drinks. Madame did
all this happened overnight? No. You took him away from his family
remember, so why the tears that he's always with other ladies? The same
way you were with him while he was married to his previous wives is the
same way other ladies are with him while married to you. So Tiwa accept
it like that (it's what they call Karma). Mind you NDLEA need to arrest
both you and TeeBillz over drug. You know he takes drugs,(Oh bribe has
taken over, dirty linen has been washed with hypo and photoshoped. No
drug found in his system they say.
#ClearingMyThroat)
and Tiwa you didn't reveal all. TeeBillz doesn't take drugs alone but
also involved in drugs (digest it) you kept it to yourself and didn't
report to necessary officials about the case at that point now you think
you can also let it be done on him by telling the world he takes
cocaine. Oh so you know what cocaine looks like, you know who takes it,
that's the more reason you need to be invited for questioning by NDLEA
and also locked up for keeping such secret. To cut the long story short,
most of our ladies experiencing marital issues caused it themselves.
And to think of the statement being said by some low class illiterates
"Who Graduate Epp". It's so obvious how some graduates have helped women
in marriage. You can hardly see people like Fashola, Ortedola, Mike
Adenuga, some bankers, doctors, journalist etc have shown difficulties
in marriage. Why? Because they are reasonable in their dealings. Who
will have time for issues after a long hectic day at work and also
thinking about the way forward in his life? No one I guess. But no, our
ladies do not want people of this class. Instead they want a club dude,
gigolo, a fraudster, etc and cry after failed marriage. Who caused it?
The ladies in question. Marriage is not a do or die thing. The essence
of relationship is an example of what and who you want to spend your
life with. Make the right decision in other not to regret later. I know
I'm always blunt with my words, i dont know how ti be diplomatic. But
take it or leave it's time you
For counseling of any kind, feel free to mail me on arikraymondmedia@gmail.com or call +2348067663106 I'll be pleased to help only if you can accept the truth and not expect me to be robbing your head.
Arik Raymond typed.
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